I’m generally a tidy person. A place for everything, and everything in it’s place. This rule of thumb covers pretty much all areas of my life with 2 exceptions: my van and my bedroom (closet generally). Not to say my house isn’t ever messy (I have three kids, COME ON!), but Mama’s happiest when things are in order.
I’ll tidy my bedroom closet every couples months or so. Any sisters out there who try on a million things and throw them all on the floor instead of putting them back on a hanger? Guilty. Or I have laundry piled on my bed, but when I’m ready to climb in bed at night I just dump it all in my closet.
The nice thing about my closet, is I can keep it hidden for the most part. It’s like my dirty little secret (that slowly eats away at me because I do like order after all). It’s true I never really feel satisfied when I walk in and see a messy closet, but in my season of life, somethings gotta give, and for me it’s my closet. But being able to keep it hidden is key…I would never want someone to think I don’t have my life in order (the lies we tell ourselves!).
My friend, Courtney, comes to our house on Wednesdays to watch the girls while I work at the office at camp. Sometimes I think it’s too good to be true that my friend watches my girls. We were friends back in our young camp days and disconnected for a few years, but recently got back in touch. She’s one of those friends who you can just pick up where you left off. She is a gem. I should dedicate an entire post to how amazing she is: being active with our girls, tidying up, graciously doing laundry, the list goes on, but I won’t. But I will tell you that she took our friendship to a new level.
SHE CLEANED MY CLOSET. Now if you ask her she most likely did it because it was eating away at her how obnoxiously messy my closet was, but for me it was SO MUCH MORE. I feel like I’m yelling, but seriously it feels like a birthday gift. At first I was so embarrassed. A) That she sees my closet like that B) That she probably found spiders under those piles. C) I throw the most random things into the back of my closet…But then I realized how amazing it was that she would do something like that for me.
I’ve always been an achiever, doer, max myself out for the sake of other people’s approval person, but lately, I’ve begun recognizing the negative affects that’s had on my mental & physical health, family relationships, and relationship with God. I can’t do it all. Areas of my life are going to be messy. There’s a decent chance my mini van will have sticky coffee stains in my cupholder until the day it dies, but I’m learning to be okay with it.
We’re moving full speed ahead with our busy season at camp and combined with my busy mom life can make for some high stress/overwhelming times, but today I received a huge blessing from my friend. She took a huge load off by cleaning my closet. Seriously who does that! I’m so thankful for her and thankful that I’ve learned to accept help because I can’t do it all. And I wasn’t made too!
Here’s to recognizing we can have messy areas in our life, our friends can know about them and love us anyway, and maybe, just maybe they’ll clean your closet 😉
Who can you “clean a closet” for today? Let’s be eachother’s village and lighten the load.